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Personality Speaking!

We had a blast today talking with Dr. John Trent, who is a respected author and speaker and he is particularly recognized for the personality test he created based on the four animals - lion, otter, golden retriever, and beaver - found in the book, The Two Sides Of Love, that he cowrote with relationship exper Gary Smalley.  Patty and I love learning and helping others understand how we are each uniquely wired!

What temperament are you? We double dare you to take a simple test that we created for our girlfriends using "coffee" talk. Click on the Personality Test to the right of our site and have fun learning about yourself. We'd love you to share your revelations with us?

FYI - Patty is a Mocha/Expresso (Otter/Lion) and Lisa is a Mocha/Chai (Otter/Golden Retriever). We have a lot of fun with our temperaments.  I think we'll go grab some java!  Lisa and Patty

Beyond Brokenness

On the radio this week we talked about moving beyond brokenness - the place where obstacles, challenges, doubt, discouragement and loss happen. We've all been there - maybe still are! It's a place that haunts and distracts us from pursing our dreams and passions. It's a place that can sidetrack us and it's inevitable.

While traveling this summer I toured the home of Abraham Lincoln and experienced the Lincoln Museum. Now, as far as museums are concerned this one exceeds expectations and sets the standard. It vividly and innovatively reminded me that nothing remarkable happens in life without sacrifice, setbacks, criticism and heartache. (Am I depressing you yet?) Lincoln's accomplishments and legacy are off the charts but his day to day life was less than utopia.

Brokenness happens. Moving beyond it towards remarkable is a choice and an action. that starts with a small step.   Lisa

brokenness | remarkable

Be Safe and Aware!

 This came from a neighbor of mine and actually happened.  Be aware girlfriends and hold on to your purses!      - Patty 

 "To all, THIS IS NOT A JOKE, NOR A CHAIN e-MAIL!  I am sending this to you to

let you know what happened to me yesterday.  I want you to be aware and
extremely careful as I am not doing very well and I am extremely shaken
up.  I went to the mall to exchange some sunglasses and decided to eat at
the Wildflower café in between Macy's and Dillards.  There were no seats
inside so I had to sit outside.  The table that was available was close to
the end rail by the sidewalk. Thank God I took my cell phone out to text.
They brought my lunch and I sat my purse on the table. This young Hispanic
around 25 or so walked up the sidewalk towards me.  Started walking a
little briskly and then bummed rushed my table, reached over me and TOOK
MY PURSE!  He ran off around the corner and this old beat up 4 door black
car picked him up and they took off.

Immediately, I called 911.  The ladies sitting around me did the same
thing.  We were all in shock and I was completely beside myself.  He took
everything in my purse.  My wallet with debit and credit cards, my license
and the keys to my vehicles and home.  I was stranded.  My husband came to
get me.

The first thing that happened was the ladies surrounding me came up and
said "who do you bank with" which credit cards do you have?"  I started
delegating to everyone which banks.  Between the 3 of us we had all of
them called and canceled within 5 minutes.  The officer said they will try
a gas station first since they can use it as credit.  Thank God we got it
cancelled before they used it.  The police also said I should change the
locks on my home and my cars.

I cannot believe this happened to me.  But I thank God that I am not
harmed.  It could have been worse.  All I lost was my purse and things
that could be replaced.  (Although I did have a beautiful purse ladies
that I'm pretty bummed about :))

I am sending this to you to let you know to PLEASE BE AWARE.  This
activity is called "Jumping" and its prevalent in Chandler right now.
They will come up to you and even sit next to you in a public place and
run off with your stuff.  Please tell everyone you know.  I would not want
this to happen to anyone else.  Please do not put your purse on the table.
Always be aware of your surroundings and know what and who is around you.

I am very shaken up by this and not doing well.  But I am physically OK as
God has protected me and I know I will be OK and so will my family.  We
are now getting a new security system to protect us since they have our
home address due to my license.

Men, please send this to your wives and please everyone forward this to
everyone you know.  I may have missed a few as I was trying to get this
out so quickly.  Sorry for the previous email with no info.  It's hard to
type and think today :(

BE SAFE and AWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

OTHERS!

For those “Lost” fans, we are not “island talking”! We’re talking “others” as people besides you! While we are to “love your neighbor as yourself” and it is imperative that we each love and accept ourselves for the person we were created to be, we must not stop with “us”. We must look at those around us and consider their needs as well. We all need advocates, someone who believes in, supports, stands behind and will campaign on your behalf. I love having advocates!

I recently had two incidences where I was the “other”. I must admit, it was a little hard for me to be on the receiving end as I would much prefer to be the giver. In these two instances, it was someone else who initiated and did for me. The first one was very simple and so not necessary (so was the second incident). Patty and I were meeting a new girlfriend for lunch and I was sitting at our table waiting for my order to be called with an empty table right next to me. A couple of women walked over and asked if I would “watch” that table while they went to place their order. I did just that, I watch their table and made sure it was still available when they came back. It was a very, very simple assignment and request and I gave it no second thought. However, when the women returned to their table they walked over to my table and handed me a little bag of cookies: a kind gesture of appreciation. Watching a table so did not warrant a bag of cookies (although Patty was already digging into the bag with a huge smile)! I was taken back and let them know how unnecessary that was but also how much I appreciated their thoughtfulness (and so did my palate!). That random act of kindness has stayed with me . . .

The second “others” incident happened a few days later (earlier this week) when our family was out celebrating an occasion together. We had the best time and enjoyed our delectable meal and when the time came to get our bill our server informed us that it had already been taken care of! We all sat with blank stares trying to sort through what was just said. “What do you mean; it has been taken care of?” “There was a group out on the patio that wanted to cover your tab.” WOW! We were the “others” that someone had so thoughtfully and generously thought about and acted on. Again, it was hard to receive but we were so blown away by this act of kindness and only regret that we do not know who to thank. We are still remembering and talking about the generosity we received.

I’m sitting here on the traditional Good Friday and I am reminded that every second of the day I am still living as an “other” with an Advocate who has and had my back over 2,000 years ago. I’m living in the reality every day that I am deeply and completely loved. It is hard to fathom and receive. I am remembering a life well lived through the person of Jesus Christ and the gift of life He still gives. I am highly motivated to also live for others and be their advocate. What random act of love can I do this day for another?

Overcoming the Madness of Meth

If you didn't get a chance to join us today for our GirlfriendIT Radio Show you missed hearing from some incredible women who have experienced the effects of this addiction first hand! We encourage you to run tand click on to toginet through this site and listen to our dialogue. There are also past shows you can ease drop.

As moms, this is a subject we can't just assume our kids will not get entangled with and who knows . . .

One thing that Stephanie said (who became addicted at 16) that stood out: "After the first time I tried it, it owned me!"

Her mom, Dixie shares her amazing journey in all of this and their outcome has been Freedom and Stephanie now has a beautiful family of four. Also, our friend Sheryl Stone shared her journey with her grandson and his addiction to heroine and how it affected them, what to look for, and how they got help.

Help us spread the word and spread hope!

Have you been affected by this horrible addiction in some way? Share your stories and let's get talking here at Girlfriendit.

BTW: There are approximately 1.5 million users in America and it is the number one drug problem we face as a society.

P.S.  Do you have a comment or suggestion for an upcoming show??? Let us know.

Addicted to girlfriends . . .  Patty and Lisa

Meth Addiction