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Do You Have Something To Say? What is lying beneath the surface of your thoughts? Is there something you want to say, perhaps need to say? It is easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and put off the words that need or should be spoken or times when we need to speak up! We ponder, analyze, over analyze, and then put on our to-do list desires and convictions of our heart. Silence can drown out a message that desperately needs to be communicated. What are you putting off saying?
- Words of affirmation to a loved one?
- Words asking for forgiveness?
- Words of encouragement to someone who has lost their way?
- Words offering hope and healing?
- Words and thoughts expressed in a way that may cause a movement for solutions?
- Words asking others to join you in righting a wrong?
- Words you have been holding onto that perhaps need to be penned into a book?
Hearing Your Voice We live in a very noisy world. On a recent trip to Cairo, I (Lisa) realized just how noisy a city could be with the unending sounds of car horns, people conversing in the streets and other aspects of daily life. On one hand, it made the city feel alive, on the other, it was almost deafening. One could easily feel lost in the crowd, silenced by the noise. Amidst the noise and confusion of life, we each need to find our place in this world and listen and hear our own voice. In each season and stage, whether it is as a young adult, a young mother raising children, or entering mid-life, each stage ushers in unique challenges and various voices. Many times we allow the voices from the past to silence us, and voices around us in the present to over-ride the still small voice of God. Some voices need to be silenced; with others we need to lean in more for wisdom and insight. The challenge is to distinguish between the two! Ask Yourself:
- What voice dominates my air waves? Is this good?
- Who’s voice matters most?
- How do I hear the still small voice of God?
- What will it take to silence the static to hear God’s voice?
- Am I ready and how will I use my voice?
- And finally, do you truly believe your voice matters??? (Many of us struggle with this one, if we are honest?)
"Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional." – Max Lucado Research confirms that those who know how to communicate effectively and resolve conflict are considerably more fruitful and influential. What does this mean? Basically, if we spend more time chiseling our communication skills and less time complaining, feeling sorry for ourselves, and avoiding issues, we can lead ministries and grow organizations exponentially. Tips to add to our trusty toolbox:
- Tackle the right issue: Ask yourself, “What is my bottom line? What issue do I want to resolve?” It’s easy to make the mistake of going down rabbit trails and not staying on point.
- Be the Master of your Emotions: Generally, we make the biggest mistake in a confrontation in the first menacing minute. We may feel attacked and lash out instead of being genuinely concerned and interested in disarming the situation. Instead, choose not to be offended. Think before you speak. Open up the dialogue. Ask questions.
- End Well: Every relationship counts. Be aware of the story you tell yourself about others and their intent. Those stories determine how you respond. Respond correctly and with love.